When the Body Says No — And the Soul Waits to Speak
Author: Bianca Moeschinger
April 2025
I’ve been seeing clients for a long time now.
Whether through therapy or emotional release bodywork, there’s a pattern I’ve come to recognise — a sacred unfolding.
At some point, if the space is safe and the person is ready, the gut feelings begin to rise.
The unsaid starts to find form.
The body speaks.
It’s not always a clean process — more like an overflow.
A funnel, full to the brim with years of unprocessed thoughts and emotions.
Things that weren’t digested when they happened.
Weren’t spoken.
Weren’t allowed.
And now, they don’t want to go down anymore.
They don’t want to be swallowed.
They want to come up.
To be seen.
To be heard.
To be expressed.
When something rises in the body — whether a feeling, a contraction, a tightness, or a lump in the throat — it’s the body saying:
“I can’t integrate this. I need more clarity. More truth. This doesn’t feel right.”
The system is rejecting it.
Not because it’s weak, or broken — but because it’s intelligent.
Because the life inside of us is saying:
“This is dangerous. This is not aligned. This will hurt me.”
Our nervous system, our gut, our tissues — they are genetically built to respond to misalignment.
To hold when something’s off.
To defend.
To contract.
Or — when the overwhelm is too great — to completely disconnect.
That’s when we leave our bodies.
We stop feeling our gut.
And we’re taken on a ride.
We might still be functioning, talking, caring for others…
But the voice that’s running the show is the one that says,
“Just keep me safe. Just do the right thing. Just don’t upset anyone.”
The soul’s voice?
Quiet.
Because safety has taken the wheel.
And in that moment, our truth is lost beneath the coping.
But truth doesn’t disappear.
It waits.
It rises when the body is ready.
And in those sacred sessions — when someone finally allows their body to speak — there’s a kind of homecoming.
A remembering.
Not of facts or timelines — but of inner truth.
Of the voice that was always there, just waiting to be felt.
But… it doesn’t have to be this way.
The way we navigate when and how to express ourselves, the constant caution and internal negotiation — it doesn’t have to be the only way.
Sure, as children, it’s much harder.
So much depends on our environment, our upbringing, and how safe we felt to exist fully.
But maybe this is where it needs to change.
Right now, we’re putting so much effort into healing ourselves from childhood wounds — wounds born out of misunderstanding, or from a parenting model based on reward, punishment, control, and a subtle (or not-so-subtle) form of policing.
What if we shifted that model?
What if we started seeing our children not as empty vessels to be filled or corrected — but as enlightened souls who already carry wisdom?
Children who are fully alive, emotionally rich, and deeply intuitive.
Just because they depend on us doesn't mean we have to squash their spirit or mold them into “well-behaved” versions of ourselves.
Maybe the work now is to learn how to praise and guide these vibrant, independent beings in a way that encourages expansion — not suppression.
To validate their emotions.
To listen to them as equals, not subordinates.
To treat them with respect, emotional transparency, and clear, loving boundaries.
Imagine if we taught our children that it’s safe to feel everything — not just the comfortable emotions like joy or calm, but also anger, rage, sadness, frustration, desire, and the flood of hormones and longing that hits them like a wave during adolescence.
What if we raised a generation that understands their inner world as something sacred, not shameful?
This means we, as a society, must be willing to open our minds —
To what is real psychologically, not just what fits within a belief system or dogma.
To honour the soul within the child, and not just the behaviour.
To raise humans, not just citizens.
To create space for truth, rather than obedience.
Because when we start there — with trust, emotional literacy, and reverence for the whole human experience — we change not just childhood, but the entire trajectory of our collective healing.
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