The Two Forms of Value: Who We Are and What We Create

Author: Bianca Moeschinger

March 2023

There comes a moment in life—a pause, a breath—when we start to understand our value as a person. It doesn’t happen all at once. It unfolds slowly, like the tide rising to meet the shore, shaping who we are with each ebb and flow of experience.

I feel life is a slow journey to discovering our own value. It’s a dance of expansion, retraction, refinement, and expansion again. Like a sculptor, we chip away at the excess, revealing a clearer form of ourselves. I show a little of myself, express a truth, or share an idea, and the world gives me feedback. Each reaction offers me a choice: do I retreat or do I grow? In a lifetime of these actions and reactions, I become my own valued form—a masterpiece constantly shaped by life’s hands.

The Early Years: Being, Doing, Becoming

When I was young, I was simply being. Life was light and playful. Purpose didn’t matter much then. I was seeking joy, connection, and experience—carefree and unbound.

Then the years of doing arrived—when the world introduced me to business, money, and the exchange of my time and talents for value. I sold what I believed in at the time, but I now see that many of those beliefs were borrowed. They weren’t truly mine to embody. I promoted concepts, climbed ladders, and wore titles that didn’t fully belong to me. I was doing, but I wasn’t yet becoming.

Motherhood: A New Layer of Value

Motherhood changed everything. It brought me into relationship with others in ways I had never known. I became the most important person to my children. My sense of value expanded as I learned to nurture, teach, and hold them while also discovering how to honor myself. Being a partner, too, brought its own lessons—learning to give, to push back, and to grow alongside another without losing myself.

The Storms of Change

The biggest tests of my value, though, came in life’s storms—changing careers, breakups that needed to happen, and surviving financial loss. These moments were like wild winds stripping away what no longer served me. For a time, I believed others defined my value—by my earnings, my career, or my contributions. I was living in survival, with no space to pause and reflect on my worth.

But eventually, the storm passed. I realized I was safe. I looked at my hands—hands that had worked, created, held, and healed—and I saw that they carried more skills, wisdom, and life experience than I had ever given them credit for. In that quiet moment, I understood: value is not given to us by others. It is found within ourselves.

I realized that my worth was not about external measures. It was about who I am to myself, to my children, to my partner, and to the people I care for deeply.

The Refining Process: Learning Through Borrowed Creations

Borrowed concepts—other people’s ideas, dreams, and definitions of success—played an important role in my journey. I needed them to actualize my own path. By playing out their stories, I discovered what I valued and what I didn’t. Each idea I outgrew, each path I released, refined me further. It was like sifting sand to find gold—a process of letting go so I could uncover my truest self.

I opened myself to diversity. I let the unusual, the sparkly, the strange, and the edgy colour my perspective. I let the unfamiliar stretch me, shake me, and expand me. With every choice, I grew closer to who I was becoming.

Health: The Compass for Alignment

Health has been my greatest compass. It holds me accountable. When I move in the wrong direction, my body whispers its truth—through fatigue, through tension, through illness. It reminds me that health is the foundation of everything. It is more important than money, reputation, or meeting someone else’s expectations. Listening to my body has taught me to recalibrate, to slow down, and to honor my own pace.

Coming Home to Myself

In these later years, I’ve become more insular. I’ve become my own best friend. I hold myself accountable for my existence, not in a harsh way, but with gentle honesty. This space of introspection has been a gift—it has allowed me to refine my values and truly discover my worth.

From this place of knowing, true creation is emerging. Not borrowed ideas, not concepts handed to me, but creations born of my own truth. Creations with substance, integrity, and legs to stand on. Creations that carry meaning and can truly serve others.

The Two Forms of Value

Through all of this, I’ve learned that value shows up in two ways:

1. Personal Value: Who we are as people—to ourselves, to those we love, and to the world.

2. Created Value: What we bring into the world—a product, a business, or an offering that holds its own weight, even if no one knows the creator.

Both are important, but they are not the same. We each get to choose which forms of value we wish to create, share, and support. I now look for the underlying values behind every person, product, and business I engage with—seeking alignment, substance, and truth.

A Life of Deliberate Creation

Life, I feel, is a slow journey toward our value. It is a deliberate becoming. We test, we express, we receive feedback, and we refine. Each cycle brings us closer to ourselves, to our truth, and to the creations that truly matter.

This journey isn’t about chasing approval or external success. It is about becoming aligned with who we are, what we care about, and what we are here to create.

Why I Created This Platform

The training portal—and every course, program, podcast, or blog I create—comes from this place of willingness to help. My value now lies in sharing what I have learned through experience, so that others may find their way more easily.

I share my reflections with my close community, my family, my friends—and, thanks to technology, with so many more. Because this, to me, is true value: creating something solid, meaningful, and helpful for others to use in their own journey.